After 20 years of marriage, Kirk Franklin says being unfaithful to
his wife would be comparable to cheating on God, and advises men not to
cheat on their children and the Kingdom of God in search of something
"newer."
"Men can be dumb at times, and want what's newer,
fresher, or what our other 'head' thinks is better. But to fail Tammy is
to fail God. To cheat on Tammy is to cheat on the Kingdom, my children,
and even you. Those who trust me to chase Christ with everything I
got," Franklin said, according to BET. "I'm not perfect, but I'm still in love with Tammy."
The
46-year-old gospel music recording artist, songwriter and producer
revealed that the pair met when they were young. Although Tammy came
from a good family, Kirk did not and was challenged to change by his
future wife.
"[She's a] prime example of how a good woman can change a man without
breaking him down. She didn't compromise her standard but helped me
reach it," Franklin recalled. "Every song you've heard over the last 20
years, she wrote it. She was every lyric, every key change spelled her
name."
Although Kirk admitted that his marriage was not perfect, he said, "We've seen dark days together, but we saw them, TOGETHER."
In a previous blog for Patheos, Franklin asserted that in order to have a successful marriage, divorce has to take place.
In
the blog titled "The Great Divorce" the entertainer explained the
importance of divorcing things in life that are holding you back from
being sanctified. He recalled being a newlywed and looking at another
woman while he was eating at a restaurant with his wife.
"The
spirit of ADD attacked my mind, the focus of my eyes left the beautiful
bride in front of me and turned to this mean horrible lady who shouldn't
have worn such a sexy dress and sweet smelling perfume," Franklin
wrote. "Tammy stopped talking as she noticed my attention had turned to
the young lady that had passed, began to roll her neck and suck her
teeth like only a sista is gifted by God to do."
Instead of
causing a scene, Franklin's wife gave him an ultimatum. He recalled her
speaking with "the quietness of a lamb, yet the authority of a soldier,"
while letting him know that she would not allow him to look at both the
woman and his wife.
After 20 years of marriage, Franklin chose his wife, Tammy. Still, he recalls the root of the real struggle he faced years ago.
"I
had old habits I developed before I understood that salvation and
sanctification were two different things and took some old hurtful
habits into my marriage: promiscuity, a carnal approach to putting the
past behind me, childhood addictions of pornography," Franklin wrote.
"Of course, my wife's shoulders were not built for my unhealthy past. I
almost crushed her in the beginning of our marriage, because one woman
cannot keep up the performance of several. God never intended her to."
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